We must raise them…

By this time, you must have heard about the Turner case. You must have read posts about everyone’s disgusts about the sentence, his father’s letter, his remorseless speech to the judge and the victim’s awe-inspiring letter.

We must not forget that this is not about college partying, binge drinking, peer pressure and white privilege…this is about RAPE. Period.

Mr. Turner,

I have read and heard news of too many rapes happening everywhere. But, somehow this case hit me hard. You see, I am a mother. I carried her for nine months. Took very good care of her. Did my very best to raise her well. Nurture her. Educate her. Respect her. Love her with all my being. If I could shield her from all the pain and heartaches and dangers, I would. But deep down, I know I can’t. Soon, I will also be entrusting her to the world. Soon, she will be going to college. And soon enough she will face and learn what life is all about.

Real men, we must raise them

But, as a mother – I will teach and raise her to be a strong woman. She will know that her worth as a woman does not depend on how she looks and dresses. Though I believe that respect is earned and not given, this is not the case most of the time. That no matter what, there are people who were raised not to be respectful of others, this she already knows.

Real men look after women, not take advantage of them.

As a woman, she will know that real men don’t force themselves on women. Real men know how to take care and love women with up-most respect.  And real men who loves truly…waits.

As a mother, my heart breaks for this young lady. Just because of that “20 minute of action” she won’t be the same young lady that she was before your son took over her unconscious body. She will have to live with the trauma for the rest of her life.

Real men, condemns the wrong doings of other men. 

You see Mr. Turner, you are what’s wrong with this society. You, Brock and Judge Persky are what gives men a bad name.  Your son made a choice to violate an unconscious young woman in the sickest way possible. At that time, he already knew of his dreams of graduating, of joining the Olympics and of all the great opportunities that are ahead of him. But still, he made that choice to violate this young lady. He knows what he is doing. He chose his fate.  He must pay for it in the fairest way possible, even if that means he needs to register as a sex offender, even if it means he won’t be able to fulfill his dreams of becoming a Stanford graduate, even if it means not fulfilling his dreams of becoming an Olympian and even if it means he has to serve years in jail. Him not being able to eat, do the things he enjoyed, go to swim practice and taking away many opportunities from him is his own wrongdoing. And you know what is even sadder? You probably encourage it. You as a man of honor(?) should know that. Let this case be the turning point for you and Brock. Let this be a humbling experience to correct what is wrong and do what is right. You will be doing yourself and your son a favor. Perhaps save his life.

Sincerely,
A loving mother

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{when less is more}

Pondered Thoughts Proverbs6-20-22

A child who grew up knowing how it is to have nothing, they grew up appreciating everything…

As we passed by KFC, on our way home from town, I mentioned how having KFC was a treat when we were younger. Then, my husband mentioned how getting barbeque or a McDonalds cheeseburger was a treat for him back them days. Hearing my daughter say, that she thinks she is better off than most kids by not being a spoiled brat brought a smile to my lips. Yes, this is the kind of conversations we have as a family. Our daughter is aware of how our lives were as a kid. This awareness has helped her realize that she may not have everything that she  wanted, but still she is more fortunate than most kids of her age are, especially those living in a third world country.

We should teach our children the true meaning of having less and appreciating more…

Are we denying her a good life? Some might even say that we are not loving her enough by not lavishing her with all the material things and other luxuries that we as a parent should give our children. Can a good life be measured by how lavishly we live?

A life lived simply is a life full of possibilities…

A good life for us is having the ability to be able to eat out or go to the movie theater as a family once in a while. It means eating home cooked meals together and talking about how our day have been. It is watching movies together with a bag of popcorn. It is folding laundered clothes as a family. It is about making memories and going on trips together.

When is less, more?

My Family

I am the one sitting in Daddy’s lap.

Tomorrow, my Dad will be celebrating his 82nd birthday. As I look back into my childhood, I can’t help but be thankful for everything that we had. A life lived with so much less, yet is filled with so much more. All the things that no amount of money can buy. I know that my parents think that ours was a hard life. I know that they wished they could have given us more, not realizing that they gave us everything that we needed.

Grateful to the ones who give more than enough…

Daddy, as you celebrate your 82nd birthday, I want you to know..that you and Mang gave and showered us with everything. Void of material things but filled with so much love, care, support, understanding and lessons that helped us became the person that we are today. I want to thank you both so much for all that you are to all of us…Happy, happy birthday! I pray that the good Lord, will continue to bless you and Mang with good health, peace of mind, happiness, many more years of togetherness and all the wonderful blessings that you both rightfully deserve. We love you both so much!!!

Spoiling less is actually loving more…

PT Ecclesiastes7-14

Now, I am thankful for a daughter who can see beyond the material things. I am thankful for her heart who can feel the love in not having everything.

When less is more, it is a blessing… 

All good things,
Charina